People had had to end up "kidnapping" their children in the attempt to get them "home".

Considering that at such times when the woman decides to wear the pant, one can safely assume that the children will come home if (and that's an if} the man had preferred a home gurl.

Don't delude yourself into thinking you stand a better chance with a homegirl when the divorce chips are down.I have seen a home boy put out on the street from a mansion he had sweated for and left at the mercy of friends by the same homegirl he had imported a few years back.Even worse this local lady got the children to accuse their father of sexual abuse and that ended his vistation rights.Talk about bringing it upon yourself.

I personally I would be more pained if some village girl I brought to America disposes me of my life savings than a woman I met on an equal basis here.At least I would not have to live with the shame of being outsmarted by a my own import.

Besides Sam I knew your enquiries about Amanda were fake and you are proving me right. Your preference is for home girls, so why are you trying to deceive our Biafran Queen?

Many Nigerian/Biafran ladies are wasting away here without a companion because they will not come down from the high pedestals they have erroneously created for themselves. They have allowed the deception of their new and late found liberation and sophistication to get in their heads at the expense of a good family life. They will portray a freedom, independent and sophisticated posture to the outside world, but when they get back home, they sob uncontrollably on their pillows because they live in a lonely, depressed state. There is nothing wrong for a woman to be assertive, (like my friend Amanda and Fumi of the Nigerian World forum. Amanda & Fumi?) but to everything, there is a limit. Marriage is give and take. Compromise and harmony is a key to a successful married life. They don�t sell it in the market, we have to learn and imbibe it.

Importing home girls from home could be dicey too. (Depending on where home is, Nigeria or Biafra) At times it worked out fine, and some times it is a disaster. What bring about the disaster is the same as above. Fake freedom, sophistication and deceitful liberation.

In a marriage, there has to be a husband and a wife, not two husbands. Even in homosexual relationship, there is a husband and a wife.

Marriage has to be between two equals with different responsibilities, but towards the same goal.

More grease to your elbows,what is important is a Biafran friendly spouse, be them green or white.It is also important we inculcate habits that would ensure our continued survival, I will talk more on this on Ambrose's thread.

Bababoyz

You know if you took the time like you have just done here to express your opinion on one Nigeria,you might convince some people to support your cause.

Where did you "pick" yours from?

All, I think we should go home for this exercise, at least you will be getting newer ride.

Bababoyz:
You didn't say what compromises you've made and still making in your marriage.
I see you're blowing your own trumpet and dissing other women from that Nigeria space, except your born and raised in diaspora wife.

Explain what you mean by, "There is nothing wrong for a woman to be assertive, (like Amanda and Fumi) but to everything, there is a limit".

This is a cyber forum. The greatest majority of us here do not know each other, let alone, intimately. Like they say, each person's mother's soup is always purpoted to be the most delicious, however flawed.

I could sit down here and write ovation-deserving, heart-warming desertation about my family and I. I could go on and on about my attributes, endowments, and accomplishments that are quite verifyable both at sight and at close contact. I could be carried away with the praises and admirations that are reactions to such gifts. But displaying such will be a characteristics of a shallow and debased mind/person.

Recognizing that we are not equally endowed, and that one man's trinket is another man's gold, I rather use one of my abilities to defend and uplift the seemingly less endowed "trinkets" for their self betterment. The acquisition of sense of self-worthiness by all of us makes for a progressive, harmonious, and tolerant society.

Just remember that, as in every society, there are men and women who chose to remain unmarried. It should not be interpreted that they couldn't find a marriage partner and as such "sob into their pillows every night, but appear independent and sophisticated in public".

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Marriage is not a guarantee to success and harmony. Rather, Mutual compatibility, trust, love, and occassional attitude adjustment (compromise) are a guarantee to a successful, healthy, and harmonious marriage.

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You said it all sister.

Meanwhile, why did you deliberately misquote me? I wrote: like my friend Amanda and Fumi and you quoted: like Amanda and Fumi.